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My name is Patty and I want to be part of the solution for child sexual abuse. I am 57 years old. I have 3 children and 7 grandchildren. I am a single woman. I have dreams, fears, and conflicting emotions. I am hoping to reach others that will help find answers to protect our children.
Here is my story.
I grew up in a 2-parent home with a stay at home mother. I became pregnant at 17 yrs. of age and delivered my first child (A beautiful girl) at 18. I married at 20 and had a boy 3 years later and another girl 2 years after that. I had a very busy life raising my children and working full-time. At the age of 40 I became a grandma for the first time! I was so excited each and every time a new grandchild came into my life. I would have them often. We would go on trips together and have fun. I have babysat most of them at one time or another.
I was babysitting one weekend in 2014 for 2 of my granddaughters 6 and 2 when my world came crashing down! The 5yr old said she had been molested (my words not hers). I was shocked and stunned. I felt so many things at once. I asked her to draw a picture and then called her mother at work.
We talked that evening together to try and decide what we should do. This was the most devastating, confusing thing that had ever happened to us. We called the police the next morning and filed a report. I didn’t know what to do or what to say to her. I was worried for her emotional state. I was worried there was a “molester” free to do this to others. I was sickened that this had come into her life. These are all still true today 3 ½ years later.
Here we are in 2018 and still dealing with the legal system. She is 9 now. Her “molester” was arrested and released with bond. He was 18 and her half-brother. His life has gone on like nothing happened. My granddaughter is still in therapy. She has been put on ADHD medication. She still doesn’t talk about it. She gets very emotional and frightened.
I have found the legal system to be lacking in the skills to deal with child molestation. I have researched hundreds of organizations and web pages for information. What I have found is a need to change the way we handle this. I am hoping to reach out to others for ideas, inspiration, and help to make changes in our system so that the victims HAVE A VOICE!
This affects us all! It is like throwing a stone in a pond and watching the ripples move outward. Please I ask for any comments so that we may support each other and move forward to make changes. Below are some great links to sites to learn about this problem.
A quest for calm in the storm of abuse for victims and all the lives touched!